Writing your book: make it your Golden Goal for the coming year

by Caryl Westmore

Imagine the thrill of writing your book this coming year because you made it your Golden Goal and top priority.

Writing your book your main goal this coming year

You can write your book

Picture the joy of holding your newly published book (currently incubating inside you as an idea) like your newborn baby nine months or less from today?

And what if  you target it as your “Golden Goal” for the coming year?


How the Golden Goal formula can help you write your book

Two people in the Matrix Goals course came up with a topic close to my own heart – writing blogs and books.  One person has had his book manuscript sitting on a shelf for months/years…now he felt inspired to learn more about what I know about self-publishing and options like Kindle and ebooks.

My second delegate, who I will call Maryann, realised that something was holding her back, blocking her from writing – yet she is passionate about writing and photography.  Starting with questions as we tapped…like “how does that make you feel?  And where in your body are you holding it? And what colour might it be?” we soon we tracked the memory to an ECHO aged 12 years.

We did Matrix Reimprinting using EFT tapping to release this ECHO from a humiliating traumatic memory when she wrote a creative essay which was belittled by her English teacher in front of the class, causing her to shut down big time.

Once we released the traumatic charge around that memory “in the Matrix” and then reimprinted a positive empowering memory…we could then ask that ECHO to take us to other ECHOS prior to that time.

PAST LIFE ECHOES showed up next…several Past Lives in fact – which when cleared.


This allowed us to go into the Future in the Matrix to ask her Future Self how she got to be the successful, wise and accomplished writer SHE had become… She was shown how to cut cords coming from her close family that were also holding her back.

Magically she came out of her session released, relieved and inspired to write several books her Future Self has assured her she had in her now.

Update – this case study of mine features in the book Transform Your Beliefs, Transform your Life  with EFT using Matrix Reimprinting by Karl Dawson and Kate Marillat (Hay House).

Ready to commit to writing your book?

So how do you feel about finally getting your book writing project completed?  Ready to go ahead writing your book and make it your golden goal for the coming year?   Contact me for a consultation on getting inspired, organised and actually achieving your cherished golden goal in the coming year!  We can chat on Skype – breakfreefast or by phone. Email me now at goalsuccessyes @ gmail.com It will be my pleasure to assist you.




Why Poor Self-Image will doom your Goal Success – Bob Proctor video

by Caryl Westmore

Bob Proctor video on SELF IMAGE

Bob Proctor on Self-Image

Self image is the key to your goal success – boosting your chances of achieving your dream goals – or dooming you to failure before you even start!

This Bob Proctor video explains the key reason why poor self image will doom your goal success.

Note how Proctor says a “fat” self image can doom attempts at weight loss…

“When a person who is overweight goes on a diet without altering their self image…any weight loss will be temporary.

I believe Matrix Reimprinting using EFT is the fastest way you can shift poor self image programs lurking in your subconscious – in 60 minutes of less!

But back in the day, these life changing tools were not something  Proctor had access to.

Yet to his credit Proctor has, like many modern day self-help gurus, endorsed EFT tapping via The Tapping Solution.

His best advice previously was to use repetitive vivid imagery and affirmations over 21 to 30 days to counter-act the sabotaging affect of poor self-image imprinted in the subconscious from early life experiences.

In this video Bob Proctor refers to Dr Maxwell Maltz, author of 1960s bestseller Psycho-Cybernetics. which describes how cybernetics, the science of how guided missiles self correct to stay on track with their target can be applied to human psychology.

Maltz pioneered the concept of applying cybernetics and working on self-image through his work as a plastic surgeon.  What puzzled him was why a minority of patients were no happier after their operation than before, even if disfiguring scars or other malformations had been removed.

Self-Image – the “golden key”

The golden key to a better life, said Maltz was inner work on self-image. Poor self-image was set up in a patient’s earlier life experiences which made them feel ugly from the inside out.

He concluded: the brain thinks in terms of images, therefore if you can consciously create the desired image of yourself the brain and nervous system will automatically provide itself with constant feedback to ensure that it ‘lives up to’ the preordained image.

Reimprinting self image and self-belief

Thanks to Matrix Reimprinting this can be accomplished by helping your client find the source of their poor self-image  in early childhood experiences and reimprinting new empowering beliefs and self-image – at that time “in the matrix”.

She believed “all men are pigs”

An example is my 50-year-old client who I will call Heather (not her real name).  She repeatedly described the men in her life – – as “pigs” and repeated stories about the many times she had been victimized by previous bosses and business partners.  A victimizing scenario where she was owed  a large amount of severance pay but feared not getting fair treatment was playing itself out when she started working with me.

Almost immediately using EFT Tapping and Matrix Reimprinting, I took her back to an early memory in her teen years when her uncle had come into her room one night and raped her.  She never told anyone because she did not want to upset her aunt and family but the intensity of the trauma and the powerlessness she felt after that incident had set up a pattern in her life which seemed to prove all men were “pigs”.

There was also a key incident when she was six years old which she had never labelled as abuse – but which her adult self realized was totally out of line. As she interacted with this six-year-old self she encouraged her to do what she hadn’t done at the time – tell on the older male cousin involved.

Only when I asked her the question – “if a teenage boy did this to your daughter of six, would you let it go?”

“No way,” she replied indignantly, “I’d kill him”.

Using the re-imprinting tool, we completely changed the self-image she had lived with all these years – of a victim of men who behaved “like pigs”.  This made a huge difference to her life.

So what about YOU?

What gifts would you be able to express in the world and what goals would you achieve by nailing a poor self-image that will doom your goal success if left untended?


How EFT Tapping for Guilt & Shame can heal you

by Caryl Westmore

 Shame is like guilt on steroids when we don’t deal with it early enough. Cheryl Richardson

EFT Tapping for Guilt and Shame with Cheryl Richardson

Healing Guilt and Shame EFT Tapping: Cheryl Richardson:

EFT tapping for guilt and shame was the theme of this World Tapping Summit 2014 interview with Cheryl Richardson.

Coming from South Africa where many people could be carrying the legacy of shame from apartheid years – and possibly from the colonial past – I was riveted to hear Cheryl Richardson in the interview she did with with Jessica Ortner of The Tapping Solution during the World Tapping Summit 2014  discuss how we may be carrying generational shame within and can tap this away!

Below is my summary of the interview – because you may have missed it when it was aired free.

EFT Tapping for Guilt & Shame: My Summary

We start “guilting and shaming” ourselves as kids – and can continue this toxic habit all our adult lives. 

Cheryl Richardson says it is vital to heal and release patterns of guilt and shame forever with EFT Tapping – the super effective way to effectively dissolve the toxic guilt and shame stories we tell ourselves.


Our parents and educational system were quick to use shame to control us as children.  And it can affect us with lifelong  patterns of perfectionism for instance – not wanting to invoke the shame of criticism of others because of traumas from childhood.

Or putting up with bad behavior from family and friends because we want to keep the peace and be liked by everyone – people pleasers.

It’s a way of staying safe.

 What about Inherited Shame?

Carrying cultural guilt and from our family lines could explain a tendency to seek punishment and self sabotage.

Take weight issues and over eating  food for example. You may want to get healthy and fit yet you keep consuming things that sabotage that…guilty and punishing yourself…not even aware of where it comes from.

The answer says Cheryl is to tap on guilt for present day issues  – plus for any legacy of guilt you may be carrying.

What about inherited guilt as a woman?

For centuries women had to keep their mouths shut and keep themselves in place – suppressing feelings of guilt or shame if they desired freedom from their given roles as mothers and housekeepers with very little power in the family.

Women now  have far more freedom of choices than our ancestors ever had.

Some of the tapping scripts Cheryl and Jessica offered in this interview were tapping for:

  • Debilitating guilt – that haunts me – hurts so much – that just won’t go away – feel bad about myself – can’t stand being with – this guilt – this horrible guilt.
  • Carrying a legacy of guilt – like a back pack on my back – I choose to release it now. For my parents and their parents – people who came before – profoundly accept myself and them and this history.
  • What prevents me from moving forward in life – choose to take a deep breath, release this weight and take a step forward.
  • Can’t identify – choose to release it now…my mother had, father had, their parents had, any authority figure who influenced me as a child…
  • This legacy of guilt – heavy backpack – heavy weight of guilt that belongs to someone else…letting it go…letting it go completely…releasing this weight – letting it go forever . Releasing my mother, my father, everyone who came before me… who carried guilt themselves…I release
  • I feel lighter, freer, ready and able to live my life more fully and completely.

Addressing the “LITTLE KID INSIDE”

  • She thought she was the cause of everything – interrupts my movement forward by believing she is in charge of everything and cause of everything – choose to let her go and play now.
  • Kid deeply connected to my guilt – release her and live my life more fully.
  • This little kid inside who feels so guilty – responsible for every bad thing – this little kid – who trips me up today as an adult – by making me feel guilt – and then I seek self-punishment.
  • Because of this shame spiral from the past…I may eat things I shouldn’t,  hang out with people I shouldn’t, stop myself from doing things I really want to do – formed by this little kid just trying to stay safe.
  • Safe now – release this guilt – this child
  • I am free from guilt – I feel at peace with the unfolding of my life.

Cheryl ended her talk on how EFT Tapping can heal guilt and shame with these words of wisdom (which I am paraphrasing)

We are souls on planet earth  having human experiences – doing the best we can…as we grow and evolve…we can look back and release and diffuse that shame and stop beating ourselves up for it.

So there is real hope for healing with EFT tapping for guilt and shame – whether from childhood or inherited family patterns.






Wayne Dyer: Tapping, Forgiveness, Self Acceptance

by Caryl Westmore

Wayne Dyer on Forgiveness and EFT Tapping

Wayne Dyer talks to Nick Ortner on Forgiveness, Tapping, Self Acceptance and the meaning of pain in our lives

“Everything in my life changed when I got rid of the hatred, the anger, the bitterness, the rage…I can attribute all of that to forgiveness.”

Wayne Dyer, author of more than 40 best-selling books on how to change your life and plus television specials, drove to Biloxi, Mississippi when he was 34 to visit the grave of his father, an alcoholic and abusive man who had abandoned him, his mother and two brothers the day he was born.

Filled with anger and rage at how his father had abandoned his mother and his sons, leaving them to go into foster homes where Wayne had suffered terrible abuse and trauma, he wanted to “piss on his grave”. He also wondered – was he even acknowledged as his father’s son on the death certificate?

Unexpectedly that visit was to change his life forever as described in an interview with Nick Ortner during the 2014 World Tapping Summit


Having taken much inner work with The Journey and EFT Tapping to forgive my own father for the effect his alcoholism had on my life – I can so resonate with Wayne Dyer’s description of aligning with his life purpose once he could forgive and let go – and eventually acknowledging with gratitude the gift his father had given him.

Whether you use Tapping – or other forgiveness methods – to let go anger and rage against others – I guarantee this WORLD TAPPING SUMMIT 2014 video will enlighten and inspire you.


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