How EFT Tapping for Guilt & Shame can heal you

by Caryl Westmore

 Shame is like guilt on steroids when we don’t deal with it early enough. Cheryl Richardson

EFT Tapping for Guilt and Shame with Cheryl Richardson

Healing Guilt and Shame EFT Tapping: Cheryl Richardson:

EFT tapping for guilt and shame was the theme of this World Tapping Summit 2014 interview with Cheryl Richardson.

Coming from South Africa where many people could be carrying the legacy of shame from apartheid years – and possibly from the colonial past – I was riveted to hear Cheryl Richardson in the interview she did with with Jessica Ortner of The Tapping Solution during the World Tapping Summit 2014  discuss how we may be carrying generational shame within and can tap this away!

Below is my summary of the interview – because you may have missed it when it was aired free.

EFT Tapping for Guilt & Shame: My Summary

We start “guilting and shaming” ourselves as kids – and can continue this toxic habit all our adult lives. 

Cheryl Richardson says it is vital to heal and release patterns of guilt and shame forever with EFT Tapping – the super effective way to effectively dissolve the toxic guilt and shame stories we tell ourselves.

CONTROLLING US AS KIDS

Our parents and educational system were quick to use shame to control us as children.  And it can affect us with lifelong  patterns of perfectionism for instance – not wanting to invoke the shame of criticism of others because of traumas from childhood.

Or putting up with bad behavior from family and friends because we want to keep the peace and be liked by everyone – people pleasers.

It’s a way of staying safe.

 What about Inherited Shame?

Carrying cultural guilt and from our family lines could explain a tendency to seek punishment and self sabotage.

Take weight issues and over eating  food for example. You may want to get healthy and fit yet you keep consuming things that sabotage that…guilty and punishing yourself…not even aware of where it comes from.

The answer says Cheryl is to tap on guilt for present day issues  - plus for any legacy of guilt you may be carrying.

What about inherited guilt as a woman?

For centuries women had to keep their mouths shut and keep themselves in place – suppressing feelings of guilt or shame if they desired freedom from their given roles as mothers and housekeepers with very little power in the family.

Women now  have far more freedom of choices than our ancestors ever had.

Some of the tapping scripts Cheryl and Jessica offered in this interview were tapping for:

  • Debilitating guilt – that haunts me – hurts so much – that just won’t go away – feel bad about myself – can’t stand being with – this guilt – this horrible guilt.
  • Carrying a legacy of guilt – like a back pack on my back – I choose to release it now. For my parents and their parents – people who came before – profoundly accept myself and them and this history.
  • What prevents me from moving forward in life – choose to take a deep breath, release this weight and take a step forward.
  • Can’t identify – choose to release it now…my mother had, father had, their parents had, any authority figure who influenced me as a child…
  • This legacy of guilt – heavy backpack – heavy weight of guilt that belongs to someone else…letting it go…letting it go completely…releasing this weight – letting it go forever . Releasing my mother, my father, everyone who came before me… who carried guilt themselves…I release
  • I feel lighter, freer, ready and able to live my life more fully and completely.

Addressing the “LITTLE KID INSIDE”

  • She thought she was the cause of everything – interrupts my movement forward by believing she is in charge of everything and cause of everything – choose to let her go and play now.
  • Kid deeply connected to my guilt – release her and live my life more fully.
  • This little kid inside who feels so guilty – responsible for every bad thing – this little kid – who trips me up today as an adult – by making me feel guilt – and then I seek self-punishment.
  • Because of this shame spiral from the past…I may eat things I shouldn’t,  hang out with people I shouldn’t, stop myself from doing things I really want to do – formed by this little kid just trying to stay safe.
  • Safe now – release this guilt – this child
  • I am free from guilt – I feel at peace with the unfolding of my life.

Cheryl ended her talk on how EFT Tapping can heal guilt and shame with these words of wisdom (which I am paraphrasing)

We are souls on planet earth  having human experiences – doing the best we can…as we grow and evolve…we can look back and release and diffuse that shame and stop beating ourselves up for it.

So there is real hope for healing with EFT tapping for guilt and shame – whether from childhood or inherited family patterns.

 

 

 

 

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Wayne Dyer: Tapping, Forgiveness, Self Acceptance

by Caryl Westmore

Wayne Dyer on Forgiveness and EFT Tapping

Wayne Dyer talks to Nick Ortner on Forgiveness, Tapping, Self Acceptance and the meaning of pain in our lives

“Everything in my life changed when I got rid of the hatred, the anger, the bitterness, the rage…I can attribute all of that to forgiveness.”

Wayne Dyer, author of more than 40 best-selling books on how to change your life and plus television specials, drove to Biloxi, Mississippi when he was 34 to visit the grave of his father, an alcoholic and abusive man who had abandoned him, his mother and two brothers the day he was born.

Filled with anger and rage at how his father had abandoned his mother and his sons, leaving them to go into foster homes where Wayne had suffered terrible abuse and trauma, he wanted to “piss on his grave”. He also wondered – was he even acknowledged as his father’s son on the death certificate?

Unexpectedly that visit was to change his life forever as described in an interview with Nick Ortner during the 2014 World Tapping Summit

WHY I RELATE TO THIS

Having taken much inner work with The Journey and EFT Tapping to forgive my own father for the effect his alcoholism had on my life – I can so resonate with Wayne Dyer’s description of aligning with his life purpose once he could forgive and let go – and eventually acknowledging with gratitude the gift his father had given him.

Whether you use Tapping – or other forgiveness methods – to let go anger and rage against others – I guarantee this WORLD TAPPING SUMMIT 2014 video will enlighten and inspire you.

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Moving EFT Video: “I Wish You’d Never Been Born”

by Caryl Westmore


2014 Tapping World Summit


This story will make you cry – and it’s not dissimilar to stories my own client’s have shared with me as an EFT-Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner.  Healing their pain with EFT Tapping so they can BREAK-FREE of the damage such statements from our care-givers can do, is one of the reasons I love my work!

This client’s emotional pain had manifested in knee pain.

HERE’S THE FULL STORY

“I wish you’d never been born!” Those were the words that Bobbie heard from her father at her 5th birthday party, in front of her friends. They were just a few of the painful words she had to hear through the years from her father. This particular event was one of the most painful and traumatic that she had to deal with growing up, and one that continued to cause her pain decades later.

I want to share Bobbie’s story with you in a powerful and extremely moving video, where Bobbie works with Nick Ortner — NY Times best-selling author of “The Tapping Solution” and producer of the upcoming 6th annual Tapping World Summit — on stage at a live event, and I’ll tell you why…

In the video you’ll get to see her use EFT Tapping, one of the most effective techniques I’ve ever seen used for personal change and growth, and see her go through an emotional and physical transformation right before your eyes.

Most importantly, I want you to see how you can use this same technique to change your life.

This is the 3rd video in the pre-event series that they’ve just released. The other two were interviews with Dr. Wayne Dyer and with Dr. Lissa Rankin (both of which are great videos – you can get access to those as well if you’re interested.)

Trust me when I tell you that you’re going to be glued to this video! Just watch the first couple of minutes and you’ll see what I mean:

THE TAPPING SOLUTION

Let me explain more on why this video is life-changing…

EFT heals her little girl who was told on her 5th birthday by her Dad: "I wish you'd never been born..."

EFT heals her little girl who was told on her 5th birthday by her Dad: “I wish you’d never been born…”

All of us have dealt with childhood traumas, little or big events where we felt hurt, upset, scared, angry or any other painful emotion. And many of these events, whether we realize it or not, continue to affect us today, in our beliefs, our level of confidence, the emotions we feel and so much more.

Take a second to think back on your childhood. What event or events come to mind where you felt hurt, upset, scared, angry or any other negative emotion? When you think back on these events, how do you think they’ve affected you today?

This video will show you just how easily and quickly you can take the negative charge off of those memories and how you can release the conscious and unconscious holds that they have on you. And on your physical health – note she complained of knee pain at the outset.

During the video, you’ll actually get to see Bobbie get rid of the pain in her knees, something that she hasn’t had happen in 25 years!

Check it out:

THE TAPPING SOLUTION

To learn more about more free videos and interviews related to EFT Tapping for the 6th annual Tapping World Summit…                            go here EFT Tapping Summit

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