GETTING GOALS DONE WITH “OXYGEN-THINKING”

by Caryl Westmore on September 6, 2009

Apollo 13 Lift-offTry applying “oxygen-thinking” to your action list of dreams and goals and see results take off! It’s something John Assaraf recommends in his book Having it All. Once you have taken time to plan and laser focus in on your goals he says, act as if your oxygen supply was running out and you have no time to waste.

Assaraf refers to the Apollo 13 Astronauts running out of oxygen and realizing they had no time to waste. They only thought about getting back to earth, nothing else mattered, no time for discussion, whining, getting scared.” That’s exactly the way to act in business, says Assaraf: “oxygen-thinking, only.”

This reminds me of Stephen Covey’s “First Things First” directive in Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. It helps me to make a daily list of Top 5 Things To Do to keep me focused on achieving goals. At the end of a day a DONE LIST gives me a sense of accomplishment and encouragement because I have proof that I am indeed getting goals done.

This is particularly important if like me you are a solo-preneur, writer or creative. Great ideas need action and oxygen-thinking can make them happen.

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If my Nose was Running Money…ha ha ha

by Caryl Westmore on September 2, 2009


Time to lighten up and laugh – no matter where you are today – or what you may be facing in life – a laugh will take you a long way to break-free fast. And if money is the issue honey – then laugh as you reach for a tissue – if your nose is running money that is!
He is someone new to me called Aaron Wilburn And it’s from his video “Southern Culture”.

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Michael Jackson: Can You Heal Childhood?

by Caryl Westmore on August 26, 2009


This haunting Michael Jackson video captures the essence of my take on his “inner child ” fixation. As an emotional-energy healer the concept of healing the “inner child” is key to my work. Damage from parents and toxic “care-takers” or older siblings when we were impressionable youngsters can “run or ruin your life NOW.”

My own journey of healing began in my 30s when I discovered a book by Robin Norwood called “Women who Love Too Much”. I was shocked to realize I was a typical “Adult Child of an Alcoholic” with symptoms including over-controlling, simmering anger, emotional neediness and a desire to mask my pain with addictions like over-eating and over-spending.

Isolating and approval-seeking are two symptoms of “Adult Children” which I had.

I believe Michael Jackson’s unorthodox upbringing with a strict controlling – even abusive father – could go a long way to explain his troubled adult life. Adult children of addicted – or dysfunctional – parents, often grow up stunted emotionally – frozen in a “lost childhood” with the longing of song Jackson is singing.

BEING BEATEN AS A CHILD

Michael Jackson’s father Joe admitted to the BBC in 2003 that he whipped his son as a child.

When you review Michael Jackson’s life you may notice that his early adult years were enchanted with brilliant success, creativity and humanitarism – he gave millions to “heal the world and make it a better place for you and me and the whole human race.”
CURIOUSER AND CURIOUSER
But from his 30s onwards, Michael Jackson portrayed bizarre eccentricities including forays into plastic surgery to change his appearance which some call “self-mutilation”, referring to his destructive nose jobs as making him a “nasal cripple.”
PETER PAN
You could say building his Neverland ranch with its zoo and theme park for kids was Michael Jackson’s attempt to re-discover and recover his “lost childhood” like Peter Pan. The dark shadow side of this was the “evil” of child molestation (which tainted him forever despite his acquittal) – and you could say it was downhill as he ended up addicted to pain-killers, thin as a rake (anorexic?) and overwhelmed with legal and financial troubles.

Could Michael Jackson’s demons have been healed?

Yes, I believe so, with the right guidance and of course, willingness by him.

The sobering lesson for each one of us is – heal yourself and your childhood – before you attempt to “heal the world.” There is a saying in the self-help movement: “Everyone is guilty – but no one is to blame.” This means our parents were passing onto us the lessons they grew up with – often toxic and damaging. We have a choice – dig deep and heal the damage in ways I describe in my book “You Can Break-Free Fast.” Or stay “victims” and risk progressive self-destruction and wasting of our “golden years” like Michael Jackson.

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