by Caryl Westmore
I have found it to be true that an inner conflict between GO and STOP = STUCKNESS.
Both “sales champion” Tom Hopkins and the best-selling author of Wishcraft Barbara Sher, who I met in New York at a life-changing workshop years ago, say there is no such thing as “laziness” or “procrastination”. Instead it is about … BEING IN CONFLICT WITH YOURSELF.
“Why don’t you want to do what you know you should do? The reason you don’t is that you’re in conflict with yourself,” says Hopkins.
Over the years I have discovered many ways to clean and clear this “stuckness” – and one of the fastest and most effective methods is “tapping” – as in Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) – which I explain more in my book and e-coaching course.
Recently I met Joe Vitale and hearing him talk about “awakening” at the Miracles Weekend in San Diego (2008) led me to experiment more with clearing my inner blocks with the Self I-Dentity Ho’oponopono technique of saying: ‘I ‘m sorry, Please forgive me, I love you, Thank you” – all explained in detail in the book Zero Limits by Joe Vitale and Ihaleakala Hew Len.
The main result is that you move out of the VICTIM mentality, take full responsibility for everything in your life and, best of all, begin to live from inspired action – rather than goal-driven intention setting, which can be great, but sometimes becomes frustrating as you attempt to “row upstream” in pursuit of your dreams.
by Caryl Westmore
If you listen carefully and attentively to the silent talk inside your head all day, you will undoubtedly hear some wild and unprovoked verbiage coming your way.
Questions: Who is whipping you so cruelly? And which comes first – your inner dialogue (“Idiot! Can’t you get anything right?”) which criticizes you the minute you trip up?
Or does the self talk arise because of inborn feelings of low self-esteem or depression?
In my book You Can Break-Free Fast I give an example I call “Clumsy Klutz” syndrome when let’s say you were a young child and tripped up at a family gathering, spilling your drink over your Great Aunt and your older sister or mother yelled out: “You Clumsy Klutz”.
You emotional brain “hears” this in a state of “heightened awareness”. It will imprint it as “20-second blip” or memory chip onto your unconscious. And the result in years to come can be devastating!
First of all you are now set up with a negative belief: I am not worthy and will be loved only when I do not make mistakes or trip up.
Secondly, as time goes by and you go to school, you will encounter further social proof from teachers and pupils that you are clumsy – a self-fulfilling expectation, if you like.
THE SOLUTION
Become aware when you are silently repeating loops of self-talk that originated with someone else – usually parents, siblings and teachers. They may have said things that imbedded themselves in your emotional brain. Banish them forever.
Guard your impressionable emotional brain vigilantly! It can be as soft as butter on a summer day when it comes to taking in words spoken to you with heightened intensity.
Instead get into the habit of positive self-talk – and if that slips sometimes – then just repeat “I love you, thank you” over and over again – and you’ll soon feel a shift for the better.
