Emotional Freedom Techniques

You can change your THINKING and your LIFE. Starting now.

Scientists refer to it now as “BRAIN PLASTICITY” and esoterically it is referred to as the LAW OF ATTRACTION.

In my book I devote a chapter to this concept: Your Brilliant Brain. I tell the story of my client who literally “tapped away” his stuck obsessive compulsive brain pattern which had started after he had the equivalent of a stroke by being given too much anaesthetic during an operation. He felt victimized by this event and others which had happened to him – he lived in fear of total healing – in case he was knocked down again.

And  in one session his brain which had felt “hardwired” for victimization was liberated by finding and releasing with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) the childhood event – bullying by his older brother-  which had set him up. He made a decision to heal his life and I believe he rewired his brain from that time on to expect something different.

Previously science said that your brain was hardwired. In other words, you are born with brain cells wired up in a particular way that is unchangeable except that the total brain cell count declines with age.

New discoveries in neuroscience have revamped that view. A common term now used is ‘plasticity’, where the brain moulds, changes, and grows depending upon what you are focusing upon.
It’s why we discipline ourselves to be grateful, give thanks and love what is. Because if you RESIST and gripe and whine and focus on the negative of a situation, you enliven those neural pathways in the brain. Instead, positive thinking encourages brand new connections  between brain cells as you begin to grow an entirely new network connecting brain cells (neurons). This is called a neural network.

Therefore your brain and body is not something that you are simply born with, whose health and functioning you can do nothing about. Instead, you are continually growing, changing,  and shaping your brain and your body. You have far more of an effect on your mental and physical health by what you THINK and pay attention to.

And with practise you can develop great control over what you give your attention to. In a sense, you can build up your ‘attention muscle’ in the same way that an athlete might develop leg or arm muscles. Regular meditation is a great way to do this, and some recent neuroscience discoveries of meditators have confirmed this. Through repetitive meditation their brains grew significantly more neural connections than control groups who didn’t meditate.

It’s why I entitled my book “You Can Breakfree Fast.” I discovered that I myself – and my clients – would have what I call a “break-free-aha” about a specific person/incident/or event that had influenced them to believe or act a certain way. The tears that often came with the realization signified, I felt, the “thawing” of the frozen belief or thought previously embedded in the mind.

When someone is “sick and tired ” of feeling stuck in some area of his or her life – and asks me for a session to “break-free” they expect and are inspired with a chance to start anew in the brain.

Within as little as three hours or less they can get it… they had been set up – or set themselves up -  to be less than they could be, or expect less than they could have from life.

I love that about my work.  Liberating someone who wants to be free.

So never give up – I promise you: YOU CAN BREAK-FREE FAST.

How EFT tapping helped heal my fear of heights while actually  hurtling through space in a revolving cable car is one of my favorite stories I tell and show as a speaker. I tap and talk as I show how I used Emotional Freedom Techniques on myself effectively while up going the cable car in Cape Town. I have been afraid of heights all my life and after my first trip up the cable car left me terrified with clammy hands and queasy stomach, I had avoided it for 15 years.

So much so that my thinking mind had convinced me I would be fine when my daughter and I decided to go up Table Mountain by cable car on her birthday and have breakfast at the restaurant on the top.

We had just set off when I felt the cable car actually rotating  on its axis on its way up and terror gripped me. It was like hurtling through space in a tipsy tea cup!

I squeezed close my eyes so as to block out the vista of Cape Town spread out miles below us and clung to the pole in the centre, telling myself it would soon be over.

And then it hit me: “why not try EFT?” I began to tap like I’d never tapped before. Suddenly I felt so much better. I opened my eyes to test it practically – and was confronted by a gaping group, no doubt wondering what this mad woman was doing. One man actually began to “ape” me, indicating that he thought I was playing at being a chimpanzee!

“Leave her alone,” said my daughter protectively. But I didn’t care. I have long overcome the reaction people sometimes have when first exposed to EFT. Sure it can look a bit ridiculous – but what do we care if it gets results?

The point was – I felt miles better from the tapping and on my return journey actually enjoyed the view without so much as a quiver inside!

Think about how we naturally take a loved one’s hand and pat it reassuringly saying, “there there…” Well the top of the hand has a place between the ring and pinky which we call the “gamut point” in EFT.  My natural instinct on hearing emotional distress – whether in person or over the phone – is to suggest  that the person begin immediately, even in mid-sentence, to tap there or on the other excellent releasing place, the “karate chop” side of the hand while talking.